Almost two years ago, after the shootings in Las Vegas, we asked a child psychiatrist how to talk about gun violence to our children.

And once again, we are having this conversation after the weekend shootings in El Paso, Texas and Dayton, Ohio. The week before it was a garlic festival in Gilroy, Calif.

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How do we explain these events to our kids?

Jane Ripperger-Suhler, a child psychiatrist at Seton’s Texas Child Study Center, tells us we need to be careful about who is watching with TV with us and how we explain it.

“It really depends on the developmental level of the kids,” she says. Consider how you think your child will take what they see on TV, she says. “I wouldn’t watch a lot with a preschooler.”

For kids already in school, you can watch some with them, but be prepared to talk about it and answer their questions. You can ask things like: “What do you think about this?” “What questions do you have?” Gauge if they want to talk about it, but, she says, “I wouldn’t force them to talk about this.”

Explain things in the simplest yet factual way you can. You could say “A man shot some people at a concert. I guess he was upset about something,” she says. Or in this case: “A man walked into a church and shot people.”

You can focus on how you are feeling, that you’re upset and that you also don’t understand why this happened, but be careful about how you are reacting. “If a parent swoons or becomes frantic, a child is going to do likewise.”

Most importantly, remind kids that they are safe; that you will keep them safe, and when they are at school, their teachers will keep them safe.

If your child seems to be fixated on what happened in these shootings, you could encourage them to draw, build something or act something out, if they don’t want to talk about it.

If they don’t seem to be able to move on after a few days, are afraid to go to school, are too scared to go to bed, are having physical symptoms of stress or behavior problems, get them help sooner rather than later, Ripperger-Suhler says.

Be especially aware if a child has experienced a trauma before. Watching this scene on TV will not cause post-traumatic stress disorder, she says, but it can be more traumatic and disturbing to some kids.

Ripperger-Suhler says it’s important to go about normal life. And that normal life means going to a Walmart on a Saturday or out to dinner on a Saturday night.

If your child expresses some fear about it, reassure them that you will keep them safe.